In the new society, which awaits us, we have the unique
opportunity to start life afresh. To throw away those things
which have failed to sustain us and reinstate those values,
which are important. The self-destruction of the old will be
understood to be an event, which was bought about by the
implementation of the Law of Destruction.
Man has a natural path, which we have referred to as the
Divine Plan. Those who are part of this plan will be those who
are at one with themselves, nature and the Divine Spirit. This
should include an element of meditation and a commitment to
encourage those less able than yourself to follow a life which is
One of the reasons man fell by the wayside of his chosen path
was to allow himself to be persuaded that he was separate from
the Divine. The very powers that he placed in a position of
trust, in the form of churches and religious leaders, abused
those powers by seeking to enslave men for profit.
This is not the natural state that man should be. The natural
state of man is to be in balance with himself, his maker, fellow
men and nature. Nature is itself created by the Divine to remind
man of his own separateness from the Divine. Nature is the
world that we live in and the effect of how we treat it. In that
context the earth-shift is simply the effect of man's own greed
upon the environment that holds him.
The principal guiding lesson of the mistakes of the past is to
realise that man must be at one with nature. The effect of being
at one with nature is to be at one with the Divine. In this state
you tread the path of righteousness, to use a biblical
expression. In the more holistic sense you walk the path of
cause and effect, because by being at one with nature you will
give to nature and she will in return comfort you.
This is not to say that life will be easy. It is in certainty going
to be hard for those who have been given the gift of life.
However those who live through this time will also appreciate
the value of life they have been given.
The greatest gift is love. Love is the basis upon which the new
society will be built. We as advanced human beings will never
again need armaments in which to cultivate our greed. Each
man will be free to choose his own ability to survive by virtue
of those skills available to him. Each woman will truly be
equal to her fellow man.
Love is mistaken for sex by the young or immature because the
act of sex is associated with love. However the act of sex is not
love in itself, but is the Divine Spirit's gift to humanity,
whereby love may be consecrated in a communion with love.
Anything which limits love is in effect limiting the driving
force of the Divine and it is the limits, which men have
imposed upon themselves, which have contributed to their own
By way of example one of the greatest destroyers of the
structure of society has been the destruction of family life. The
family is the building block of a solid society. Without men to
teach their children how to behave at the breakfast table or
women in the home to guide our children, there is little hope of
remaining at one with yourself and the Divine. To walk that
path leads to the destruction that we should expect.
Nonetheless we have seen the rise of the one parent society
because men and women have failed to understand the nature
of love. Man, in the form of both sexes, was created to live in
harmony. He was created to live in a philosophical Garden of
Eden, with men and women living together making love
greater. The rise of the one parent society is an example of
what happens when you move from the chosen path.
Sex is the consecration of love in a holy communion between
two souls, separated from the Divine. In practice this means
that when two people make love they achieve the closest they
can come to unity with the Divine, as an act of thanksgiving.
Sex is therefore not something to feel guilty about. Guilt is a
hangover from receiving the Victorian values from our parents
and previous generations, who saw sex as the work of a non
existent Devil within us.
In the past men have made the mistake of seeing marriage as a
means to enslave women, by confining their ability to love.
Society has been persuaded to adopt this enslavement as a
means to provide men with power. This is because the nature
of man's social abilities has been developed through the
hunter-gatherer principals. Under the new society that time will
come to an end, because love is the gift of the Divine to men
and women upon an equal basis. Love cannot be used to
enslave and still be considered love.
Marriage was created to form the basis of family life. It is a
bond which is created through love between a man and a
women, which is sanctified through the act of love. This in turn
leads to children who are succoured by the woman and
protected by the men in a family relationship. This is the
greatest form of love, because family love like all love should
be based upon a love that does not need to be returned.
Family love had been secure for many centuries, but as human
consciousness has risen the need for more love has destroyed
the very thing it created. It is therefore necessary to understand
the nature of love and need for love. Whilst this may be
completely obvious it may not be as apparent to the man or
woman who feels trapped in a relationship, where love appears
to have failed them. The problem is in understanding the nature
of what the particular problem is.
We as human beings have fooled ourselves through the
wonders of our own abilities that there is just one form of love.
We have started to believe our own publicity and this is a very
dangerous thing. Every day in every newspaper and form of the
media we are told that there is only one form of love. This love
is best described as the Hollywood Love. Such a love only
comes once and lasts forever, which we discussed earlier.
Anyone who is over the age of thirty will however know that
this is a myth, even though they may never contradict the
concept in public. Love is, as we have discussed, a multi-
layered emotional mountain, of which the surface is always
changing. Further and more importantly love changes form, as
we, as human beings, age in each life. Whilst it may be
hopelessly romantic for us to want to believe that love is only
one thing, and last for ever, the advanced human being knows
that this is not the case. However society presents the absurd
position of only one form of love in every form of life.
Journalist write about it every day, even though many have had
their own lives ruined by such an ideal being sunk upon the
rocks of divorce.
The love that comes with the first flush of youth can of course
happen at any time in life. For such a love to walk through the
door of your life, when you are seventeen is a wonder, no
greater or lesser than when it walks through your door at sixty.
The problems arise when society fails to understand the nature
Society has to take on board that love is greater than an
exclusive club, which you join when you become married. The
act of marriage is a commitment to love and care for each other
and to built and protect a family. It is based upon your love for
the person and a belief that you will honour that commitment
for a life with children.
If circumstances arise that change your life path it is absolute
madness to throw away your love. These changes may take
many forms - sometimes induced by yourself - sometimes by
others. True love can accommodate more than one love in its
life and as our consciousness rises we should not see love as a
means to restrict love in those whom we love.
This is not a return to the free love concept of the nineteen
sixties, which failed for obvious reasons. What it means is
coming to an understanding of your own emotional and sexual
needs, taken in the context of your life path.
Having taken the decision to make a family, through the love
that the relationship developed, you have an obligation to serve
that family above all others. This should not limit love that you
and others might experience. It should not be a cause for
suffering for those who move through life with you.
It is complete and utter madness to destroy a marriage because
of an act of unfaithfulness. Love is far greater than that and is
not a means of control upon your partner. True love is
unremitting and does not need to be returned. True love is not
bound by the dogma of past failed marriages, but is the
decision to approach marriage in a way that is open and allows
both partners the freedom they require.
Love should not be used to trap your partner in a relationship,
but used to free both yourself and them from the chains of the
past mistakes. In society men will need women and women
will need men, but each will be free to chose another partner
should they wish, once their commitment to the family is
completed. However such a choice should not be possible
before the children of that marriage are of the age of consent.
Marriage will therefore be the act of commitment to spend your
life together in a love that is shared. The decision on whether
this should be shared together or individually is the decision of
those who take this path. Society as a whole will expect those
who make this commitment to marriage to honour it, since it is
the children that are produced from these marriages who will
inherit our future. Marriages will therefore be more open than
they have been in the past. There will be an acceptance that
love is a gift that may be shared in the furtherance of the
pleasures of life. These pleasures have been granted us by
virtue of our own connection to the Divine and a need to make
The marriage act is not an act of possession. It is a statement of
intent. No man or woman should be chained to love that no
longer exists. On the other hand it is not acceptable to enter
marriage and then leave it upon the basis of a split of the
proceeds, because one partner finds a new fleeting love. The
huge negative karma of such an act cannot be justified in the
name of love.
The nature of men is that they are by virtue of their sex not
designed to be monogamous. Women generally find a
monogamous relationship more satisfying by virtue of their
inner need to care and make a home. These are strong forces
which any artificial barrier can effectively destroy in a
In the future there will be an understanding that life is a
learning process serving the Divine Spirit. We enter life alone
and inevitably we leave the same way. The experience of love
which we have along the way is the only reason we are here.
We should not limit this, since the value of your life is
ultimately measured in this love, which you give to others. It is
the only thing you take with you to the next life. In determining
the rules by which you can live this life to the full you must
agree the terms of reference that such love can operate with
your chosen partner or partners.
Many thousands and possibly millions of human beings have
ruined their lives and those of their children through what was
an act of love. Society needs to change to understand that the
nature of love is not to destroy the family. In a true loving
relationship you should expect love to change. It may become
deeper, it may become less dependant upon sex as a means of
reuniting your spiritual need. In a true caring relationship the
need for sex can be accommodated within marriage, provided
both partners understand the nature of the love which they are
When a child reaches the age of consent it is entitled to leave
the family home and set up their own home. At this time the
obligations of marriage cease in regards to the children. At this
time I see the society in the future becoming more holistic in
its understanding of itself and the marriage relationship.
Society will live more at a communal level than it has done in
the past, recognising the need to look after the elderly, within a
family or community unit, as well as the young.
This family unit will operate by virtue of place as well as blood
bond. Instead of marriage being an inviolable eternal vow
based upon eternal monogamy and ownership by men of
women, it will be the right of all citizens to choose their free
partner. The bondship ceremony will replace marriage and
divorce. It confirms the etheric bond that is created between
people through love at a spiritual level.
The bondship ceremony confirms a loving relationship
between partners who consider themselves equal in all matters.
A partner will enjoy all the benefits of anyone in the
relationship of marriage, but will have the freedom to know
that their love is not limited by their partner. In many ways
those who enter a partner relationship will enjoy a greater bond
than can probably be obtained through marriage, because their
love does not need an artificial vow or priests to hold them
together. The arrangement which they honour amongst
themselves may be as rigid or flexible as their needs require.
The bondship ceremony can be conducted by any person who
knows the two people concerned, with at least one witness who
knows each of them. Standing face to face the man raises his
right hand, fingers together and outstretched as if on a pane of
glass between the two, in the appropriate swearing position.
The woman then raises her left hand in a similar fashion so that
the two palms touch and each finger touches the equivalent
finger of their partner.
At this point the person conducting the ceremony will take a
blade of grass, or a reed, or piece of string or anything that is or
has been made from a living thing, such as a silk scarf, a daisy
chain or a flower stem and tie the index finger of the two
partners together. Next the witness will do the same so that two
bonds hold the couple by their index fingers. Then the
ceremony leader will invite those who attend the ceremony to
add any additional ties between the couple around their raised
arms. They shall then be asked to repeat the following words
by the ceremony leader:
I (full name) take you (full name) to be my life partner.
I make this bond as an act of love for you
I will not limit my love for you or limit your love to others.
I will bond with you in this life and for ever
I will renew or revoke this vow at the time of remembering
In the name of the Divine Spirit that is within me and all those
When the ceremony has been completed the bond that tied the
couple should be kept until such time as it is renewed, added to
or replaced. The etheric bond that has been confirmed by this
ceremony is not destroyed when love or your life path changes
course, as it may do at some stage in the future. It is a
ceremony that shows those present that two people have made
the commitment to be together in love and that in the event that
this commitment leads to children, they are bound by the bond
until any children from the relationship reaches the age of
consent. Those who do not have children may relinquish their
bond by common consent at any time, but recognise that the
love that was built by the relationship can never die.
Bonding as a form of ritual does not carry with it the weight of
law or the stress of a formal marriage ceremony. It is designed
to be freely available and requires no more preparation than the
presence of others to witness the event. It formalises the will to
be and live with your partner. It does not involve the concept of
either religious or state involvement. It is a statement between
you and your maker in front of witnesses.
The "time of remembering" is any anniversary day of the
ceremony, but in the case of those who have children it is the
anniversary that follows the last child to reach the age of
After the bonding ceremony is completed at an appropriate
time the couple should write their names in their own hand in
the Book of Life, accompanied by their witnesses and dated
using the words:
(full name in own hand) and (full name in own hand) have
upon the (date of ceremony) been bonded in this life according
to the rules of the Book of Life and witnessed by
(names of witness in own hand)(signature of witness)
(names of witness in own hand)(signature of witness)
Names so entered cannot be removed any more than love can
be destroyed and should continue to exist even if their love has
changed. The Book of Life remains a witness to that love
which never dies, but may change form. An understanding of
Love as a bond between humans and its ability to change with
age will make society stronger. Women will be free to
determine their own destiny with partners they choose in
relationships that may be monogamous or otherwise. The true
value of a relationship not being any artificial value placed
upon it by society, but the value of love between the hearts of
those who bond.
In society the love of family and love of your fellow man will
be the measure of your worth and valued above all other loves.
Family love unlike that which results from the sexual bonding
process comes with maturity and spiritual growth. Family may
be by blood, friendship or location, since we are all the family
of man. The principal of love your neighbour as yourself being
founded in the same principal.
This love that you bring into your life leads to a balance in
your life which can be achieved without rules that restrict love.
This balance in turn leads to a firm foundation for society to
build a new future without the hypocrisies of the past.
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